Those reading who know me well are well acquainted with my addiction to pop culture and celebrity gossip. I am not proud of this and know that it does little improve me as a person. It’s not like checking People.com throughout the day actually makes me more knowledgeble about current events (well maybe in does in certain circles). So as I was checking Facebook and email today I made my requiste stop by the aforementioned celebrity magazine web site. One of the top stories really caught my eye and quite frankly PISSED me off.
I have kind of kept up with the whole Bridget Moynahan and Tom Brady saga since the beginning. If you are unfamiliar on this situation, here is the skinny. They dated for 3 or so years. Broke up. He immediately (like within days, so that makes one a little suspicious) started dating Giselle Bundchin (a super model) About 2-3 months after the break-up Ms. Moynahan goes public with the fact that she is in fact pregnant with her ex’s baby. (She actually broke the news stateside while Mr. Brady and his new girlfriend were VERY publicly vacationing in Paris). One can only assume she told him first, before telling the world, but who knows.
Now, Tom Brady has described himself as “conservative and religious” (he is Catholic). Irony! However, he allowed his ex to go through her entire pregnancy alone and was not even present for the birth of his son. When the boy was born his mother named him and gave him HER last name (you go girl!). She lives in L.A. while Brady resides in New York with his new wife. He is a football player so he is occupied from fall through February and then is “free” to come and spend time with his son. Now that you are all caught up, her is the article from People.com:
Bridget Moynahan Upset Over Gisele’s Comments About Her Son
Originally posted Friday April 03, 2009 02:10 PM EDT
While friends and family gather in Costa Rica to help Tom Brady and Gisele Bündchen celebrate their wedding weekend, Bridget Moynahan – the mother of Brady’s 1½-year-old son, John Edward Thomas Moynahan – is headed to Vancouver, to start a new movie.
But in the week leading up to the festivities in Central America, a soap opera involving all three adults was shaping up, kicking off with Bündchen’s expansive remarks to Vanity Fair, in which she said she considered young John Edward her very own child.
“It’s not like because somebody else delivered him, that’s not my child,” said the supermodel, 28. “I love him the same way as if he were mine. I already feel like he’s my son, from the first day.”
That apparently didn’t sit well with those in Moynahan’s inner circle. A source close to the 37-year-old model-actress tells PEOPLE, “Bridget has her own life, she doesn’t need to be involved in the drama of all this, and she finds it disrespectful that her son is being paraded around in front of the paparazzi when she’s specifically made it a point of keeping him away from that.”
The source went on to say pointedly, “I can count on two hands, in two years, the number of times Bridget has been photographed with that baby. I can count on two hands the number of times in the past month that Gisele has been photographed with that baby.”
In an even more personal attack, the source said, “If Tom is such a great father as everyone likes to say, then you would think that he’d respect the privacy of his young child and would ask his wife not to use his son as a publicity prop and a subject of public discussion.”
Moynahan on Motherhood
So, for whatever reason, this really infuriated me. First of all, going back to the very beginning, what kind of selfish jerk lets an ex (even if it is on bad terms) go through pregnancy and childbirth ALONE! Second, you would think that even if he has now found the love of his life he could be (and make damn sure she is) more respectful of his “baby mammas” feelings.
But what really has me mad are the comments that were made in the interview Giselle gave to Vanity Fair. Although not mentioned in the People article above, she refers to Brady’s son as a “love child”. Who the hell uses phrases like love child? Then she goes on to say that she loves the child as much as if her were her own. Ok, on some level, I get that. I have always thought that if you are going to marry someone who has children already and you are accepting the role of becoming a stepparent (which in many cases can be the most thankless job in the world) then you need to embrace those kids as your own. I have several friends and a set of cousins who grew up with “step monsters” and were treated as second class citizens in their own parents homes. I guess behavior treatment such as this is where we get the phrase “treated like a red headed stepchild, huh? This behavior is deplorable on the part of any adult. When you get married you get the whole package: the family and all the baggage that that entails along with it.
We have friends, Eddie and Beth, who have a blended family. Eddie was previously married and has a son from that relationship. He and Beth also have two children together. Their family was one of the first I have ever seen navigate the waters of blending and melding two families together with such love and grace. Beth considers Eddie son to be like her own in the sense that he is a “bonus kid” for her, a blessing! Their family would not be the same without him. Eddie and Beth have worked hard in the years I have known them to embrace Eddie’s ex and her new family and to make sure that the relationship is a good one. The lines of communication must be open and mutual respect is of paramount importance. Although I have not seen their son in quite some time I can only imagine that he has benfitted greatly and thrives from having two sets of loving parents. Divorce is never ideal, especially when kids are involved. That is why the adults have to make it the best situation possible. This family inspires me.
So maybe that makes me seem a bit hypocritical in feeling so strongly about the comments made in Vanity Fair. To me, there is just something so inflammatory about the way she addressed the issue.
“It is not like because somebody else delivered him, that’s not my child,” said the supermodel, 28. “I love him the way as if he were mine. I already feel like he’s my son, from the first day.”
Oh really Giselle …you see where I come from unless you went through the blood (and I do mean blood), sweat (buckets of it), and tears (oh, the tears!) it took to bring that baby into the world (not to mention the nine months it took to carry him) IT IS NOT YOUR CHILD!
(**Disclaimer: Please know that I am not refering that statement in any way to adoptive parents who are everyday heroes!**)
Perhaps I am placing myself too much in Briget Moynahan’s shoes: dumped, rejected for another woman, impregnanted, humiliated and ledt ALONE … and now that other woman has the audacity to call this baby her own. I would want to punch her in the face. You know, let’s be fair, maybe he comments were misconstrued or taken out of context by the reporter. She is from Brazil and English is her second language so we could chalk it up to the language barrier … but really it just seems cruel and thoughtless. She also has not yet had her own children so maybe there is a certain degree of immaturity and naivete to her words. Either way, she owes her husbands son’s MOTHER a huge apology.
Your thoughts? I would really love to know. Am I way off base her?